Yep. But if the woman is not perusing and keeping her options open, she could end up being surprised and hurt when he decides to stop browsing and start contacting someone else.

If you tell someone that you want to be exclusive and you both agree to hide your profile, show some integrity and see how the relationship progresses first. If things aren’t going as well as planned, communicate that to the other person and then both parties can unhide their profiles and look for more suitable matches. If one is secretly looking, and meets someone else that they really like, they may end up hurting the other person who had no clue. Likewise, karma may come back and bite the sneaky one in the butt because they may very well end up getting hurt if the person they meet in the future – whom they really like – does it to them.

I wouldn’t be too concerned, yet. He decided to be exclusive with you to find out if you’re the one for him or not. Maybe you are, maybe you aren’t. It would be nice if he didn’t feel a need to be curious about others, but IF he continues to find you a great match, his interest in others will probably fade. Besides, any comparison he does now that makes you look good will mean greater certainty and conviction that he’s making the right choice. I don’t know how you feel about him – is he certainly the right one for you mamba, or are you still figuring this out?

When my wife and I first started dating, we were pretty sure we were a great match, but as we’d been out of the dating game for a long time, we wanted to be sure we weren’t falling for the first good prospect

We both continued dating others casually until we were sure – and everyone else just made us that much more certain we were indeed the right match for each other. Some people can’t handle that, some can. So, what you do or think has to be compatible with who you are.

I wouldn’t be too concerned, yet. He decided to be exclusive with you to find out if you’re the one for him or not. Maybe you are, maybe you aren’t. It would be nice if he didn’t feel a need to be curious about others, but IF he continues to find you a great match, his interest in others will probably fade. Besides, any comparison he does now that makes you look good will mean greater certainty and conviction that he’s making the right choice. I don’t know how you feel about him – is he certainly the right one for you, or are you still figuring this out?

When my wife and I first started dating, we were pretty sure we were a great match, but as we’d been out of the dating game for a long time, we wanted to be sure we weren’t falling for the first good prospect

We both continued dating others casually until we were sure – and everyone else just made us that much more certain we were indeed the right match for each other. Some people can’t handle that, some can. So, what you do or think has to be compatible with who you are.

That’s the point that I’m trying to make. If BOTH partners agree, then that’s okay. However, if one is keeping options open behind the other’s back, it’s only fair that the other party keep their options open too.

I could be wrong, but the way I interpret it is that the guy may be sleeping with the one he’s says he exclusive with, but there may be other things in the relationship that just don’t well with him. However, he doesn’t want to give up the sex until he finds a potential replacement.